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Don't let your past destroy your future

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treditionerschienen am20.05.2021
'Yesterday' has a bigger influence on us than we might want to admit. It is not only our childhood, but also our other life- and relationship-experiences that contribute to the fact that we perceive the world through a certain type of lens. Everyone is re-living a past emotional reality at some point- so it's crucial to find a way to deal with it for ourselves. Sylvia Walukiewicz shows in her book different ways on how we can better understand our vulnerability and on how we can transform our emotional past into a life of fulfillment in the present and live our true essence more. Don't let your past destroy your future - start now!

Sylvia Walukiewicz is a psychologist, a spiritual teacher, a shaman and has the ability to profoundly perceive energetic states and emotions. In her individual sessions and seminars she supports people in healing their past wounds and transforming their old emotional realities into the life they wish from the depth of their heart. Additionally, she teaches methods through which one can reconnect to their true self again and, can therefore, live up to their full potential.mehr
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Klappentext'Yesterday' has a bigger influence on us than we might want to admit. It is not only our childhood, but also our other life- and relationship-experiences that contribute to the fact that we perceive the world through a certain type of lens. Everyone is re-living a past emotional reality at some point- so it's crucial to find a way to deal with it for ourselves. Sylvia Walukiewicz shows in her book different ways on how we can better understand our vulnerability and on how we can transform our emotional past into a life of fulfillment in the present and live our true essence more. Don't let your past destroy your future - start now!

Sylvia Walukiewicz is a psychologist, a spiritual teacher, a shaman and has the ability to profoundly perceive energetic states and emotions. In her individual sessions and seminars she supports people in healing their past wounds and transforming their old emotional realities into the life they wish from the depth of their heart. Additionally, she teaches methods through which one can reconnect to their true self again and, can therefore, live up to their full potential.
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Weitere ISBN/GTIN9783347315761
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Erscheinungsjahr2021
Erscheinungsdatum20.05.2021
Seiten368 Seiten
SpracheEnglisch
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Chapter 1

What vulnerability really is and what society made of it

To begin with, I would like to say, that I find vulnerability is something very beautiful, touching and emotional. It allows us to connect with our true self and can show us how we really feel when emotions arise. Moreover, we are broadcasting our authenticity if we allow our emotions, feelings and other perceptions in our body, mind and soul to flow. This does not mean that we always have to react based on what we feel, but it is vitally important to perceive vulnerability as it is, without judging, denying, escaping or reinforcing it. However, the problem with this is that we have forgotten how to do it. In today s society, it is not socially accepted to show how we really feel. In other words, according to what society wants to make us believe, we should always function, do the tasks we have to do and apply the cultural behaviours without criticising them. These beliefs and behaviours have their origins from many centuries ago⦠In the past everyone had to fit into the basic patterns of society and if he or she did not, there were several methods, such as torture or banishment from the village to punish those whose behaviour was different from what society wanted. As can be seen from this example, there have been expectations to submit oneself to the crowd for a very long time, instead of expressing oneself in an authentic manner. Consequently, this has led to a kind of indoctrination not to show, and even, not to allow oneself to feel one s own emotions as they are. This indoctrination is so deep, that some of us do not even realise that we have been indoctrinated by it! It even seems that we do not know any other type of behaviour other than what we were taught. Indeed, we have almost never had the opportunity to experience any other type of behaviour, since these beliefs were passed down through generations, from parent to child. Therefore, it is understandable that we continue this pattern of behaviour and beliefs because, as a child, we adapted to the reality of our parents. As we were oriented towards them and our mind was not developed enough to question the experiences we had. Under these circumstances we started to adopt these beliefs and behaviours without ever questioning them and, so, they became our reality, and now we live our lives from out of this reality. Furthermore, as a child, we were dependent on other people and had the deep need to be loved by others. Consequently, we began to behave in a way that we believed would make others like us: we did things they wanted us to do and we avoided doing things they did not appreciate. Once again, we are applying the beliefs and opinions of others instead of listening to ourselves and perceiving what we really want in order to live our authentic self. In the past showing emotions like sadness or anger was not perceived in a good way by others and was sometimes even judged or criticised, making us begin to feel guilty and not accepted when we expressed them. Therefore, we gradually began to express our emotions less and less until we reached the point when we started to not accept them in ourselves. In other words, because of how we perceived others wanted to perceive us, we started to refuse our own vulnerability, not only when expressing it to other people, but also when expressing it to ourselves. Consequently, we have never felt free. We have always been living in that cage of not being allowed to do certain things and of having the fear of being judged, not only by others, but also by ourselves. How is it possible under these circumstances to reach the state of fulfilment? How can we feel the flow of life when because of these old indoctrinated patterns we are not allowing it to flow naturally? How can we heal the wounds of our past if we do not allow them to arise nor to be accepted and taken care of?

Vulnerability is nothing you have to be afraid of. The key is just to accept one s own vulnerability and learn to handle it in a right way. It s as simple as that. Of course it sounds much easier than it actually is. However, since one s own vulnerability is part and parcel of one s life it is vitally important to handle it in a right way. If we manage to do that, then life can become much easier, more fluid and there will be less fear around challenging situations, such as, dealing with a dispute with a close friend, or giving a lecture in front of a group of people. The reason for this decrease or even disappearance of such fear in these situations is that when one realises how one feels, then one can accept and acknowledge one s vulnerable parts. It is these parts, which experience the nervousness or the insecurity around the challenging situation and, the most important point, one can take care of them in an appropriate way. As a result, one is able to handle the rising emotions before the lecture or before the dispute . Therefore, during these situations one can remain in an emotionally balanced state and be able to react to the whole setting in a way that is independent of any emotions that may arise because of some old fears or negative experiences from the past. This type of behaviour requires, firstly, an awareness of one s emotions, one s emotional reactions and of one s present emotional state. Secondly, it is necessary that one can have a constant contact to oneself and can perceive one s own sensations that are passing through one s body. This last point is very important as one needs to know how to react to these sensations by, for example, understanding them, accepting them and taking care of them in an appropriate way. Of course, none of these mentioned qualities can be developed overnight. However, it is possible to build them up steadily day by day, in order to know oneself better, to reach a state of greater emotional balance and to be able to live more in the present moment, instead of being afraid of future events or being sad about past situations. When a person is aware of what is going on in his/her emotional system and has learned how to take care of oneself, it is much easier to handle any situation, even if they happen unexpectedly, because one is connected to all parts of oneself and has, therefore, more stability, available energetic resources and a clearer mind. Alternatively, if one didn t want to accept one s own vulnerable parts, then they would anyway be influencing the emotional state in some way, such as in a situation which would trigger some deeply stored challenging emotions, and, this could happen even in moments in which one is not exposed to challenges. This can happen because we create a type of resistance within us when we haven t accepted some parts of us: a resistance between our executive conscious mind and our vulnerable parts which we are rejecting. Consequently, our inner emotional state is not balanced and we have less mental and energetic capacity to fulfil the activities we re doing.

To sum up, to find an appropriate way of behaving with one s vulnerable parts can significantly improve the quality of life because one is more aware of- and more aligned to oneself, can react better to emotionally challenging situations (which are inevitable in life) and has greater available mental resources. In addition to these points, one s life can become more fulfilled, as one perceives one s own vulnerability in a deeper way and therefore can reach a more profound connection and understanding of oneself. The alternative to that is to suppress our emotions, to ignore them, to fly from them or to play the victim when an intense emotion comes up, which is in my opinion what most of us do. Behaving in this way means we will never be totally aligned with ourselves, nor will we get to know ourselves in a profound way. Given that, every human being has vulnerable parts, emotions and feelings it is vitally important to find an appropriate way to handle them. The problem is that we have never learned that at school, even if it is such an essential topic in life. So, if more and more people could learn how to handle their emotions it would create a huge change in society, in the occurrence of depression and other related mental health issues, and of course, within ourselves.

Everyone is vulnerable: every single person has this soft, loving and sensitive inner part which is just waiting to be discovered and accepted. This discovery may sometimes be painful, especially because this soft part has been suppressed, denied or left alone for such a long time. Now the question arises: what exactly is vulnerability? Is it just one huge piece or does it consist of many little pieces which form the whole? Of course, everyone perceives it slightly differently and it is not my intention to impose my perception of it on you. However, I can give you a summary of my experiences which I have made during my own development process and from the observations I have made while working with my clients on their vulnerable parts.

Vulnerability: an umbrella term for all of the sensations which you can perceive in your body

Basically, I would say that vulnerability is the umbrella term for all of the sensations which you can perceive in your body that have no physical explanation , on the other hand, there are sensations, such as hunger, tiredness, a sore throat or stomachache that are definitely not vulnerable parts. However, they can rise up as a symptom whose origin is in a vulnerable part.

Consider the example of having a lot of fear about losing one s partner because as a child...

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Sylvia Walukiewicz is a psychologist, a spiritual teacher, a shaman and has the ability to profoundly perceive energetic states and emotions. In her individual sessions and seminars she supports people in healing their past wounds and transforming their old emotional realities into the life they wish from the depth of their heart. Additionally, she teaches methods through which one can reconnect to their true self again and, can therefore, live up to their full potential.