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Einband grossBeyond the Game
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Beyond the Game

Creating a Leadership Culture to Achieve Extraordinary Results
Made For Successerschienen am01.07.2022

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CHAPTER 1

MAKE AN IMPACT

Everybody is standing, but you must stand out."

-Israelmore Ayivor

You are a coach if you re in a position of influence. The question is how good a coach are you? The best CEOs in business and the best head coaches in sports are always finding ways to better themselves and their teams. They re always searching for ways to be more effective and efficient. Complacency is never an issue with them. They re on a constant quest to go beyond the lines (you might recognize that as the title of my first book) in building deeper trust, respect, and purpose with their teams. Results, productivity, and winning become a by-product of going beyond the lines, and that s how you achieve and sustain success with your team. Ultimately, every coach should be striving to further develop and enhance the character, self-discipline, and habits of every team member, giving them the tools to help others in turn.

Before you can coach people effectively, you need to coach yourself first. How can you build and train championship qualities in others if you yourself don t possess those qualities? Your talk would be meaningless to your team and you d be perceived as hypocritical and ineffective. Walking the walk is essential before talking the talk. Team members need to see you as someone with championship qualities and habits, in order for you to help instill those same qualities and habits in them. This will make you real and relevant to them, which sets up the foundation for you to build a championship culture for peak performance with your team.

What is Your Impact?

Are you making a difference in society? Are you having a positive impact on others every day? If you didn t show up at work today, would people miss you? If you re on a football team and you re not at the game with your team, would their odds of winning the game be a little lower because of your absence? You never truly know what your impact is on others until situations like these occur. If you believe in God, I m sure He didn t create you just for you to be average. I m sure He didn t create you to just take up space in this world. God wants you to make a positive impact, and the way you make a positive impact in this world is by making a positive impact on others.

If the coach leads with fairness and is someone the team members respect, every person on the team will have a deeper connection and commitment to the team, because two things are happening: They re doing something they re good at and they feel appreciated. Moreover, if they feel like they re making an impact by improving their lives and making other people s lives better, then they know they re doing something extremely meaningful. Think about it. This is something I strive for with my teams every single day. I let each individual know what their strengths are so that they know what they re good at and how they can help our team. I also let them know that it s imperative to keep building their strengths. Their mindset should never be complacent; I want them always thinking about ways to make their strengths even more effective. The strengths you have as a team allow you to be in a position to achieve success, which is why it s important to keep building these strengths.

Making someone feel appreciated is paramount. Everyone wants to feel like they matter. It s good to get a pat on the back. People need to feel that they re making a difference. A positive difference! I would do this by genuinely complimenting my players and telling them that I notice their effort and dedication, not only in improving themselves, but also in encouraging and helping their teammates. You, as the leader, might notice these things, but you also need to articulate them. That s the key.

As head coach of the Punahou School boys varsity tennis team for 22 years, I only missed one match. It was in April 2014 against Mid-Pacific Institute. The reason was my induction into Creighton University s Hall of Fame in Omaha, Nebraska. I didn t want to miss even a single match because my team was my priority as head coach. Honors and awards are nice but not a priority for me. I shared the news about the induction with my players and it was they who convinced me to go. They reminded me that this was a special honor, that I needed to be at the induction, and that they would take care of business on the tennis court. They did and we defeated Mid-Pacific 4-1. I was away from my team for three days and when I returned to practice, they all told me how much they d missed me. I knew I was making an impact. A positive impact!

Parents are Coaches

If you re a parent, you re a coach. You are coaching your sons and daughters in life. It s parents who first shape the fundamental character foundations of their children. For me, as a tennis coach, I can enhance kids lives by further developing their character and building championship habits in them. I can create a culture of excellence and guide them in practices and matches. I can also coach the parents to reinforce what we are striving towards. We are all on the same team with the same ultimate goals-to give their sons or daughters a priceless, positive experience on the team and help them in developing their full potential as people.

Through the years, I have encountered and worked with literally thousands of parents-all types of parents. Almost all of them have the right goals to provide for their kids and hope that they will find their passion and develop their full potential in life. But why do some kids behave inappropriately? Why do some kids fall far short in reaching their full potential? Why do some kids go off on the wrong tangents and get into trouble or do bad things to others?

The answer is a variety of reasons. Yes, there are good and bad people in this world and no doubt there always will be. A newborn baby is innocent and ready to be coached and trained by Mom and Dad. A newborn isn t born with prejudice or bad character. It s the parents responsibility to coach their kids properly early on in life. But despite the best intentions, there are still bad parents in the world. If your kids go astray, go off on wrong tangents, and do bad things to others, don t blame them. Blame yourself.

Remember that no matter who you are or how good you think you are, you can always be replaced. A CEO of a failing business can be fired in hopes that a new leader will save the company and make it profitable. A sports team with multiple losing seasons will often fire the head coach in hopes that the new coach will turn things around by winning championships. Children, however, cannot fire their parents. Still, everyone can be accountable for his or her own actions.

As a coach, I take full responsibility for all of my players actions on the team, good and bad. As a parent, you need to do the same. That goes for the CEO of a company too. Taking accountability for yourself and your team actually teaches others to take accountability for themselves. It s walking the walk. People see what you do and how you do it. Sometimes the most impactful coaching comes through your own actions. Think about a little boy or girl watching his or her parents treating others with kindness and respect. What message do you think that boy or girl learns from watching that action? Now think about that little boy or girl watching their parents being disrespectful and mean to others. What do you think they learn from that action? Yes, kids do tend to emulate their parents, believing that their parents actions are acceptable and appropriate. That s the power the leader has and why it s crucial to be aware of every action you take, because of the message it sends to others. I always remind parents not to protect their children from adversity, but rather to teach them how to face it. Life is challenging and they will definitely experience many adversities in their own lives. It s inevitable.

While coaching more than a thousand students over the past three decades, I also coached many of their parents to help me reinforce what I was instilling in their sons and daughters. For example, parents should reward the behavior and attitude, not the result. I ve found that when you reward and value good sportsmanship, respect for your opponent, effort, resiliency, positivity, courage, fight, and toughness, this keeps everyone on the right track to do the things that are most important-to be genuinely good people. Incidentally, encouraging these great behaviors directly affects performance, which leads to better results and winning. I was always most proud when players of mine would win sportsmanship trophies (and I would make a big deal about it) because it was an acknowledgment that others recognized their amazing character.

It s also clear to me that parents shouldn t give their kids everything they want. They need to teach them the value of hard work and to appreciate things more. If everything is given to them, they will take things for granted and not truly appreciate working hard for something they really want. Having kids do household chores such as washing dishes, taking out the garbage, and doing laundry are simple yet important things that every child should be doing in every family. I did these things and also mowed lawns and washed cars for my neighbors as a teenager to earn money. As a parent, saying the word no is often valuable in teaching and guiding kids. Why do some kids become spoiled and feel...

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